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How to Ask for Help When Your Spouse Travels for Work

Hi, Can I Help You?: How to Ask for Help When Your Spouse Travels for Work

As super moms juggling the demands of parenting and everyday life, asking for help can feel like an admission of defeat. We become masters of multitasking, finely tuning our routines, and handling it all on our own. But what happens when unexpected challenges arise, and you find yourself overwhelmed while your spouse is away on a work trip? In this blog post, we'll explore three effective strategies for asking for help during those unexpected times, even when you don't have a "tribe" to lean on.

Assemble Your Babysitting Roster

For moms who work full-time and don’t have full-time childcare options, managing everything else during your spouse's absence can be a juggling act. Enter the lifesaver: a roster of reliable babysitters or mother's helpers. Having a few trusted individuals on call can make a world of difference. You'll be surprised at how much you can accomplish with a few uninterrupted hours. Whether it's tackling household tasks, running errands, or simply having a moment to breathe, having a babysitter for even a short duration can be a game-changer. If you're fortunate enough to find a neighborhood helper, you might even steal a bit of personal time while they take the kids for a walk or play.

Setting Boundaries and Delegating at Work

A strategic approach to asking for help involves both setting boundaries and seeking support at work. When you know your spouse's travel dates, mark them on your calendar and communicate your situation to your team. Be transparent about flying solo and inform them of potential changes in your availability. Delegate tasks or reschedule meetings if possible, and don't hesitate to lean on your colleagues when needed. It's a sign of strength, not weakness, to recognize when you require assistance. This proactive approach prevents burnout and empowers you to maintain your work-life balance, even when parenting alone.

Outsource the Cleaning

When your spouse is away, and you're juggling a full-time job, childcare, and household responsibilities, the last thing you need is the added stress of deep cleaning your home. Consider outsourcing your house cleaning, at least on a bi-weekly or monthly basis. While some might label it as bougie, it's a practical solution that provides immense relief for me. Hiring professional cleaners frees up my time and mental energy, allowing me to focus on what truly matters – my family and my own well-being. This not only keeps your house from becoming a pit but also gives you the peace of mind that your living environment is well-maintained.

As moms of little ones with traveling spouses, finding the courage to ask for help is an act of self-love and resilience. Outsourcing house cleaning, building a roster of babysitters, and seeking assistance at work are strategies that empower you to conquer unexpected challenges while maintaining your sanity. Remember, you don't need a "tribe" to navigate these situations – you have the power to create your own support system. By embracing these practical solutions and letting go of the notion that asking for help is a sign of weakness, you'll not only survive but thrive during your spouse's work travels. Let's rewrite the narrative and celebrate the strength it takes to raise our families while still recognizing and prioritizing our own needs.

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